by Tanya Lynn Paluso, Founder of

5 Ways to Get Vulnerable

There are 5 ways that we can feel empowered in our vulnerability, where it will transform us and help us create the connection we are yearning for … both within ourselves and with others.

Share your struggles

Sometimes, you may think that you are the only one who has this struggle, which brings up shame. “I should have my shit together,” “I should be past this already,” and “Will they look down on me?” are some of the thoughts that have you shut down and want to hide … keeping you from sharing your struggles. But the opposite is true. We connect through human suffering. It is a relief when you share that weight that you are holding, and in the process, you also find that you are not alone. You find that others are going through something similar, and so your heart opens and you let go of the shame that keeps you shut down and you start to find the way out of the darkness.

Share your wins or what Mama Gena calls your “brags”

You may be afraid to share a big celebration in fear of having others feel less than, and so bragging in our culture is deemed inappropriate. It’s vulnerable to share when you have success because in that moment you feel like you are sticking out, exposed. But in our Sistership Circle culture of women empowering women, one woman’s win is a win for all women. You shining gives other women permission to shine.

Ask for what you need

Identifying what you need, asking for it and then receiving it is one of the hardest things for women because we have been taught to be self-sacrificing martyrs where it is better to be selfless and to put others first. So when it comes down to asking for support, we struggle. It feels vulnerable. You may feel afraid of being rejected or feel unworthy of receiving. This is the edge to lean into because when you claim what you needs and desires, you step into your sovereign queendom.

Share acknowledgements and appreciations

You probably do not get enough apprecation for who you are what what you do. You probably don’t tell the people in your life how much you love them and appreciate them either. This is why when we give heartfelt acknowledgements of one another, we feel empowered. We feel seen. And it’s extremely vulnerable to both give and receive these words of love because they bring up the tears of gratitude. They bring up the remorse that we didn’t share it before.

Receive support, love, and appreciation

On the receiving end, it feels vulnerable to receive appreciation because it brings up the tenderness of the little girl who desperately wants love and attention (because she didn’t always get it from mom and dad growing up). So that little girl inside does everything she can to pretend like she doesn’t need help, she’s got this, she’s not an attention whore, pepetuating the vicious cycle of the lone wolf who closes her heart and feels depleted from constantly giving and not getting anything in return. What you’ll realize is by acknowledging that little girl inside as worthy of receiving love and attention, you give her permission to let it in and soak it up, and in return you’ll notice the abundance all around you, able to receive it and fill your cup.

Over to you …

Which of these 5 areas feels most vulnerable to you? Which one can you implement this week? Do you have a story of how you have been empowered in your vulnerability that you can share to inspire other women in our community? Share in the comments below.